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Many times we mistreat others, simply because we have not been on the other side of our own behavior, while feeling what the other person is feeling, and with the exact same context, and so it is difficult for us to empathize.
I have been there. It's easy to do when you are not in someone else's position. We are all human, and our kindness and understanding only extends so far.
However, it is not okay to make someone else's feelings out to be invalid just because you do not feel the same way (unless that person chose to put themselves in a situation despite having had fair warning that the situation would likely be unhealthy for their current mind state).
There are people from all walks of life who suffer from things like depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, anxiety, or PTSD, who's every single day is a living Hell that most of us couldn't even fathom. If they could change it, most of them would do just about anything to be happy. Sometimes smaller scale events trigger flashbacks, and create much bigger reactions than a "normal" person might expect.
But telling people that their experience is a "choice", or to "get over it" or to "look on the bright side" is insensitive, belittling, and simply not okay. Be respectful at all times to what others might be going through. Even if how they feel might push some personal buttons for you - even if that person hasn't taken your feelings into consideration when you feel they should, we must always make an attempt to empathize.
It can be hard. Some of us just want attention, some of us want to play the victim (in fact, most of us do sometimes) and so it's hard to know how much to acknowledge a person's personal struggle, or if we are just feeding their self pity.
It's something I have battled with as well - I have caught myself turning up my nose or rolling my eyes to people I might characterize as creating their own negative circumstances, or people making constant statuses complaining about their lives. In almost all cases, this is not okay. Many times, what we assume is simply a "cry for attention", might actually be just that - but with a twist....a cry for help.
Sometimes we need someone with an outside perspective to reach out to us and pull us out of our head space, because we don't always know how to help ourselves at moments of mental rock bottom. Humans can be unsure or uncomfortable asking the people in their day to day lives to help because they don't want to burden them. We should all make efforts to learn better how to ask for help - whether from a hotline, a friend, a significant other, or a family member.
Social media, in SOME ways, can be a better solution than burdening another person by directly asking them for help. Posting a status allows people who actually WANT to help, to help, which is kind of awesome.
It feels better sometimes to have people who genuinely want to help you get better reach out to you, than it does to have people reach out to you out of obligation, simply because they feel they would "probably be an asshole if they didn't".
That being said, don't be the "boy who cried wolf either"...it takes away from people who are actually going through it.
If you regularly struggle with mental breakdowns or mental illness, no one in your personal life can be there for you full time. That means YOU must take the initiative, or allow others to help you find a therapist - or if it's necessary - medication, so that you can try to live a more normal life.
A sense of responsibility is important. Other humans can royally mind fuck you or trigger things such as anxiety or PTSD, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be held accountable for trying to un-mind fuck yourself. You are the only one responsible for your own happiness. People who genuinely care about you, will make your happiness a high priority.
As much as there ARE people out there as we all know, who don't WANT to be happy - more often than not, people just need to let their natural emotional responses to situations run their course.
If someone close to you dies, you can't just say "fuck being sad, I'm gonna be happy instead" - you must deal with the grieving process in order to maintain a healthy mind. Don't be afraid to feel what you feel, don't be ashamed of how you feel, and don't be afraid to speak up.
Just be nice to people man. Do your best not to belittle what other people are going through. Everyone's battle is different.
When I bounce back from this, it's going to be the craziest thing you've ever seen
Sometimes you just have to be okay with not being okay.
Bruh, this is why I hate people 😭😪
Still searching for answers. 🌌
Happy Mothers Day Assholes